What If ?
FAQs
What if I’m too messed up or it’s too late - I think I’ll be your worst client ever?
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I often hear this from clients when we speak during their Reach Out Call, and my honest answer is, when I hear about your issues, when I hear the emotions, the stories, the trauma, the past experiences; I feel excitement. Not excitement about the shit that you’ve been through, but excitement about the life you will create for yourself once you’ve invested in yourself and committed to the She Who Dares…Shines experience. I know how powerful this work is, and it excites me- I see the highest vision for you, in all your glorious technicolour, and that’s what we work with. Sometimes the more “messed up” a client feels, the even more profound the transformation is- and it’s never too late. So, bring it on Beaut, I absolutely love a challenge and can’t wait to witness the deep healing change in you.
What if you can’t fix me?
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I’m so glad you asked this, because the awesome thing about this work is, really it’s all self-healing. Yes, I guide you, yes, I have the knowledge, the experience and the wisdom. Yes, absolutely I am the facilitator, the therapist, the coach, the catalyst for your deep healing journey, but it is YOU that works the magic. Your amazing mind and even more incredible body are the ones that commit, dedicate to the experience, connect together and create the transformation. There really is nothing to be fixed, you are not broken, and when you become the one who dares to go there, you really will shine.
What if I’m actually kind of okay but just not as fabulous as I’d like to be- do I have to be broken to work with you?
Absolutely not. I truly believe everyone deserves and actually needs to go through the process of doing the deep inner work, it should be a right of passage for all of humanity. We are born only knowing love, we know no separateness or judgement. Everything else is learnt, everything else is imprinted, engrained and absorbed into us, usually before the age of 8 years old. Life is meant to be fun, joyous and full of pleasure and expansion. I believe you were put on this planet to grow and evolve into all of the being you are meant to be. If you have an inkling, a dream, a craving for something more, to feel complete, whole and come home to yourself in order to feel fucking magnificent then, YES, this is defo for you!
What if I can’t decide which thing to go for- how many sessions will I need?
Okay, so I’m guessing you’re talking about the Go Solo Options here. So, the Star Light and Super Star Light offerings are for you if you’re okay going it alone between sessions, you’re happy to come once a week or fortnight and bring any home healing with you to the next session. The Gold Dust Immersion offering is far more intensive, as the name suggests you really do bathe in the wonder of all of it. Soul Shine Sessions are alternated with bi weekly Supernova Sessions. You have me as your on-tap support between sessions too, as your compassionate guide, sharer of all the love, virtual hugs and connection, you don’t have to do this by yourself.
With regard to how many sessions; we tend to work through one thing per session, so one belief, one experience, one part of a relationship, whatever it may be. Having said that this work is anything but linear, we weave, twist, journey and explore so much within the sessions, and whatever comes up in the moment we unravel, investigate and heal. It’s likely that the layers will reveal things that maybe you weren’t expecting or hadn’t considered too, so we really are on a mission to go deep and find the root causes. It really is so different from person to person, so the best thing would be to ping me a message, book your Reach Out Call in and let’s have a chat about it.
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What if I can’t remember anything that I need to remember in order to change?
I hear this so often, and all I can say is that trust is the most crucial part of your deep healing journey. Your mind is incredibly clever at coming up with ways of protecting you, keeping you safe and confined within it’s limitations. This protective mechanism sometimes manifests itself as resistance. This is nothing bad, nothing that you are doing wrong and nothing to be worried or feel like you’re not good enough at. As soon as you allow yourself to ease out of your analytical mind, and allow your body, your feelings and sensations to take the lead, as soon as you connect in with your heart and relax into the sessions, you can trust that whatever needs to be revealed will, often, effortlessly and surprisingly, make itself know. The SWDS experience will gently peel away the layers, as and when they are ready to be accessed. It’s a powerful and ever evolving process and you will be amazed at how coherent and cooperative the body mind connection will be as soon as you trust that you are not your mind and you can set yourself free from it’s past programming.
What if I feel guilty for bringing up stuff about other people?
This is a biggy, and I so totally get it. This often comes up when clients feel the call to confront, heal, and release any issues with close relatives; parents, siblings or children. As women especially, we are conditioned to pour our heart and soul into caring implicitly about other people, especially those we love and care about, usually putting their wellbeing above our own. It is so common for us to take responsibility for others’ happiness, and feelings of guilt can arise when it feels like we’re blaming or being ‘unkind’ to those that have done so much for us, and love us dearly. This is totally natural, and when or if this arises, it’s an important issue to work through; every emotion and feeling that comes up in the sessions will be addressed, given the attention it’s craving and dowsed in love, compassion and forgiveness, so that you can liberate yourself from the discomfort of their presence.
What if I just can’t stop crying and I embarrass myself?
Oh, you are so not alone in having this concern. You are so welcome and absolutely encouraged though, to bring all of yourself to this space, the more unfiltered and authentically the better for you to get the most out of the experience. When we do the work together there is absolutely no judgement, it is an honour for me to hold safe and honest space for you to openly express everything that is (literally) crying to be seen and heard. I greet your vulnerability with compassion, love and acceptance, and please know that it takes such courage to allow that part of you to be seen. When we allow ourselves to release and finally let go of whatever we’ve been hiding from, or keeping pent up inside, the release of cortisol, the stress hormone is such an empowering experience, it feel so damn good to cry, even if you feel like you’re the ugliest, snot bubbling crier in the world. It’s all welcome, it’s all encouraged. I do see a lot of tears, and actually the tears of transformation, joy, and awakening of possibility match, or even surpass the tears of discomfort.
What if I can’t relax and get out of my head, I’m not very good at switching off?
This, my Love, is exactly why doing this work is so vital for you and your journey through this wild and unpredictable experience of life. We are so used to doing all the things, being all the people and taking on so much in every aspect of our lives. If you’re anything like me- and I’m presuming you are if you’ve got this far- you strive so hard to be the absolute best at all you do, and often this means not allowing yourself the much needed down time to get out of your head and into your body- this is where the true magic happens. This is the most important skill you will learn, and you’ll be amazed at how easy, effortless and pleasurable it feels when you slow down and allow yourself to access the peace and freedom that you so much deserve. Also, the package of audio recordings that come with both all Go Solo offerings, will act as a really powerful anchor for you to train yourself how to relax and switch off between sessions.
What if I can’t access my imagination or feelings?
All you need to know and trust is that every single possible feeling, and the wildest, most extraordinary visions are all available to you as soon as you give yourself permission to let go and ease into the wonder of your body and all of it’s exquisite sensations. When we do the work together, you will be guided throughout each and every process, if at any point something feels inaccessible, there will always be a word, a phrase or intuitive encouragement I can offer you to allow you to open up, get super curious and dive that little bit deeper into what’s infinitely available to you. The sessions are beautifully crafted to take you on a seamless journey, and if at any point something is calling to be changed, inspired or guided in another way, I will ensure that happens just as it needs to. There is a wildly creative and playful world within each and every one of us, and it is my job to nurture that aspect of you until it flourishes naturally with ease and grace.
What if I’m working with you 1:1 or part of a collective experience, and I don’t feel comfortable sharing all of myself?
The beauty of doing the subconscious work, and activating your imagination, is that so much can be done content free. You may find sharing feels vulnerable and uncomfortable at first but if you do decide to go there and step out of your comfort zone you can be reassured that getting things out of your head and releasing them into the open is incredibly empowering and cathartic. There will be times when all I need from you is aspects of what you’re picturing or remembering in terms of details like colour, light, texture, sound etc, and you can keep all the detail and intricacies to yourself. I can wholeheartedly reassure you though, that initially sharing may feel daunting, especially in a group setting, but as you ease into it and my way of working becomes more familiar, it’s likely to become a really enjoyable and positive aspect of the SWDS experience, especially as you realise that you are so not alone.
What if I don’t want to be seen on camera?
This is another common, natural, instinctive and protective concern. Showing up online can feel vulnerable and exposing, I get that. Even if you are, as most of us are now, used to this crazy online existence, I understand that showing up in this way can feel daunting. If you choose to work 1:1 I will absolutely need to see your beautiful face, as I work in such an energetic and intuitive way, it’s vital that I can see your face, your eye movements and micro expressions. In a group setting, which is what you may be more concerned about, I think you may be surprised at how powerful being seen and witnessed by a group of like-minded women in a safe container can be for you. I also find it so much more natural to be in my powerful flow and high vibes when I’m faced with a screen full of human faces and bodies rather than blacked out screens, but of course, it is entirely up to you, and it’s absolutely fine for you to see how you feel in the moment as far as collective experiences go. Of course whenever we do any eyes closed or lying down processes you are more than welcome to turn your camera off.
What if I get worse?
The beauty of doing the deep healing subconscious change work is that I guide you to get out of your head- the critical, analytical part of you and into your body, your heart, the core of who you really are. During a Soul Shine Session we spend very little time talking conversationally, and so that little nagging voice that asks “what if this makes me worse?” will be kindly asked to leave the room for the duration. It does take courage and dedication to commit to the SWDS experience, and you definitely do need to feel ready to go there and do the work. Of course, in order for you to make really profound, deep healing change, we do have to dive into some pretty big emotions and feelings, and this isn’t always comfortable, but the deeper you go, the deeper and more lasting the change will be. I make it my mission, and actually take great pride in spending the last 30-40 minutes of a Soul Shine Session guiding you into a blissfully relaxing, healing and transcendent experience, so you will always leave a session feeling uplifted, “lighter” brighter and more at peace with yourself. Then with all the Go Solo packages you receive a bundle of Defrazzle & Dazzle MP3s. These are to be used between sessions to ensure you are accessing these uplifting and healing states. In short answer to this question, I have never experienced anyone going backwards, and as with anything, the more you put in the more you’ll get out of it.
What if it doesn’t work for me?
Ohhh, I love a good sceptic! My mission for you as part of the SWDS experience is for you to awaken to the power and infinite possibilities that already exist within you. I don’t offer this work for you to seek anything outside of yourself or change yourself into someone or something you are not. This is about discovering your truth, your inner wisdom, and coming home to the heart and wholeness of who you truly are. The SWDS experience isn’t for everyone, simply because not everyone is willing dive deep within themselves, activate their imagination, illuminate
their shadows, face up to what is really truly, standing in their way from becoming the creator of their own magnificent lives. This work takes courage, commitment, and trust in me, the process, and more importantly the power of your own incredible body and mind to create lasting change. As soon as you commit, even if it feels really fricking scary at first, the magic will begin to happen, and the doubt or scepticism will melt away.
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What if I can’t afford it?
Now this is a really interesting one and can be slightly awkward and challenging to deal with for many. The whole “I can’t afford it” thing really is an entire world of self-worth/money mindset/ patriarchal conditioning that could be delved into, but this is not the place. I get it though- I really do, I have been there, and it took 5 years for me to be able to stop saying this about everything. Working on yourself in this way takes courage and commitment. I myself, definitely know how it feels to face the fear of investing financially, but I know, hand on heart when I take the plunge it feels incredible. We all have our own, wildly different stories about money, how much we’re willing to invest in our lives, our emotional and mental wellbeing and health. There will always be something “more urgent”, “more important” the kids, the personal trainer, the holiday, the new kitchen, the extension… So I guess the question is, are these things going to create long lasting, deep healing change in YOUR life so that the effects of your healing can ripple out into the rest of your family? What I have experienced is, that the transformation comes with the transaction, that exchange of energy, the willingness to absolutely prioritise yourself, and the knowing trust that the rewards will be worth it, and some. Of course, the choice may not even be available to you right now, and you may really not be able to afford it- if that is the case, please do reach out as we can always work out a flexible payment plan.